For the Not-Shy-At-All!

If you and your partner have access to a computer, buy a set of webcams. Try to get one that has a microphone that’s a part of it. Having to wear a headset or lean forward into a table mic to talk can really hinder some of the things this webcam allows you to do.

• Learn to tease your partner. Carmen Electra offers a wonderful aerobic striptease dvd set for the ladies and your new moves will make for a great show for your partner. Remember, stripping is only half of “striptease”; don’t be in a rush to tear all your clothes off at once. Take your time. Enjoy yourself.
• If you’ve got a toy you use to bring yourself pleasure, let your partner “direct” you from where they are. While there’s several toys that are controlled directly by your partner (see Long Distance 1) I’m referring more to letting them tell you what they want to see. Be (relatively) honest in your reactions to what they’re having you do. This activity is also a great way to non-threateningly show them what pleases you and what doesn’t.
• If your webcam has a recording feature, send them a sexy video email. This can be anything from a private peep show to a cute wink and a slap on your ass. Entice them. Delight them. Remind your partner what a gem they have waiting at home for them.

If webcams are not a option, send your lover erotic emails or text messages. Make sure to keep your material varied. Don’t just send “I want to f* you so bad” every day. Remember the four W’s from grade school: Who, What, Where, Why, When? Use these in variation with “How” in your messages. It makes them more personal. This being said, you don’t need to make them all into mini-stories. Sometimes all you WANT is a good fucking, and that’s alright to say to!

If your partner is coming to visit soon or you are going to see them, send them steamy messages about what you want to do to them when you see them. Phone sex is great for this. You can fill many an evening acting out plans for future meetings!